Creating New Years Resolutions: For New Moms
Resolutions for the New Year and the New Mom
The new year is coming! It feels like 2017 was 5 minutes ago? Instead of waiting to plan out your New Years resolutions, let’s be a proactive Mama versus reactive and get a head start on those 2019 goals that seem so far away! They are going to sneak up on you fast but in a good way, of course.
Whether it is because of the cliché or the cynic inside you, we are quick to reject resolutions for the New Year. Creating the list of resolutions actually is a really admirable tradition. It reflects the hope that we have that with each turning year comes a chance to turn your life around. If you have ever made a resolution for the new year, it means you have believed in the chance at a fresh start to become the best version of a Mama that you can be.
I know what you are thinking. If that is so, why is it that we almost always fail? Are we destined to lose conviction to the cause as the months lose days? Are we just not good enough to be the people we want to be?
Before you start tossing out self-esteem and future goals, let us examine the global trend of falling short of your new year resolutions. There must be a reason. Maybe it is in the resolutions we set out – ambitious, abstract goals we set for ourselves. Most times, we do not even know why we want to “do yoga every morning”, is it what our hearts are telling us to do? Can we really follow dreams if we do not know why we have them?
So, let us re-draft our lists with things that may be closer to us than previous lists from all the years before.
1. Listen to yourself
What does your heart need most right now? It could be a vacation you have wanted to plan but you put off because it was never a good time. It could be quitting your job, or it could be conjuring the courage to paint again. Our hearts and minds are always telling us what we need, we tend to drown out their voices under all the opinions of other people that we have gathered. When making these resolutions remember to give your own opinion as your first priority. Follow your heart that will make you feel the accomplishment that you had missed out on with all other resolutions you set out for.
2. Practice Random Acts of Kindness for Everyone
Kindness goes around in a circle. It is bound to come back to you sooner or later. It could be karmic balance of the universe or the people you helped are helping you back. It will refresh your soul and replenish your depleting self-esteem.
3. Be Kind to Yourself
Being kind to ourselves opens up to not only ourselves, but all the people around us too. When we stop searching for someone else to treat us right, and give ourselves the love we deserve, we are left with the energy and ability to treat others better too.
4. Do one god thing for your body everyday
Set a low-maintenance, abstract goal for yourself every day. Decide what that goal is going to be and commit to it. Soon you will find yourself doing it regularly. Even if it is to drink almost 8 glasses of water in a day, or trying out a virtual fitness class. The closer you feel to your goal the more likely you are to go the distance.
5. Find one good thing about everyday.
When you make gratitude a habit you open yourself up to a revolution of perception. As the days progress, the extent of your gratitude will magnify. The wonder and appreciation you will create for life with this habit will open you up to pursuing other accomplishments too. Maybe one day you set yourself to be grateful for the way you look. This will help you to love your body and treat it well, it will magnify the objective to losing the weight you wanted to get rid of from the offset just by being good to yourself and not because of what someone else thinks.